T   P   O
The Patient Ox (aka Hénock Gugsa)

G r e e t i n g s !

** TPO **
A personal blog with diverse topicality and multiple interests!

On the menu ... politics, music, poetry, and other good stuff.
There is humor, but there is blunt seriousness here as well!

Parfois, on parle français ici aussi. Je suis un francophile .... Bienvenue à tous!

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Friday, June 26, 2020

Tintin En Amérique ~ de TPO

** Tintin En Amérique ** 
( ታንታን  አን  አሜሪክ ) 

A quality cartoon serial by the Belgian, Hergé (1907-1983)
~ good, clean, highly artistic , and lots of fun !

Monday, June 22, 2020

Explaining "Manifest Destiny" ~ by TPO

Explaining "Manifest Destiny" 
~ by TPO ~ 
Why did you kill the Indians? he is asked.
Becuz they was there.
It had to be done.
They was in the way.
They wouldn’t give it up.
Give what up?
The fight.
Their ways.
They didn’t believe in God.
They had the land.
They wouldn’t give it up.
So we took it.
Becuz we could.
Becuz we believed back then we was good.
Becuz there had to be blood.
You take a man who resists and brings
doubt into what’s agreed and understood,
you nail him to a piece of wood.
That settles things.
It should.
That’s the end of the story;
without blood, no glory.
You don’t add up the honest cost
to them that’s won or them that’s lost.
Them that’s won is left alone
without excuse;
they refuse
to atone.
—from Rattle #63, Spring 2019 

Sunday, June 7, 2020

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ~ by Robert Harrington

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) 
~ by Robert Harrington ~

When a president’s personality disorder becomes lethal !
Robert Harrington , April 25, 2020
Palmer Report » Analysis
I have a psychologist friend who once told me that she will not treat a narcissist. Specifically, she will “refer out” a patient suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). She gave me the clinical reason first. They are a waste of time. When the NPD enters therapy he or she does so, not with the intent of becoming a better person, but as a game, with the goal of beating the therapist and “proving they [the narcissist] are the smartest person in the room.” For the narcissist, therapy isn’t a journey, it’s a zero sum game in which they must always be the winner.

Then she gave the non-clinical reason: “I dislike them. If it can be said there is a kind of person I hate on sight then it’s the NPD. I have nothing to say to them except, ‘Goodbye.’”

NPD may be how psychology defines evil. A principal feature of the NPD is that they do not consider themselves to have a mental health problem. In other words, they’re not the problem, you are. The NPD finds a way to blame others for their problems. A natural consequence of this point of view is a phenomenon known as “gaslighting.” Wikipedia defines gaslighting this way:

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes such as low self-esteem.

Since about 1% of the population is NPD, chances are fairly good that you have met one. If you’ve been particularly unlucky, as I have been, then an NPD has exercised significant influence over your life. In that way the people of the United States of America have been particularly unlucky these days. The president is a narcissist, and We the People are subjected to daily gaslighting, compliments of Donald Trump.

If only the press in particular and We the People in general had known NPDs the way my therapist friend does, we might have saved ourselves a lot of trouble. For one, Trump would have never been elected in the first place. The voters would have “referred him out.” For another, the members of the press might have skipped the part back in 2017 where they were racing each other to report the moment in time in which Donald Trump had “finally become presidential.” That day was never going to happen. Narcissists don’t get better.

A recent example of narcissistic gaslighting from Trump came after he recommended injecting disinfectant as a possible “cure” for coronavirus. Trump gaslighted the American people the very next day by insisting he was addressing a reporter “sarcastically,” that he didn’t mean it literally. This despite the fact that we have video proof of Trump directly addressing the question to Dr. Deborah Birx in a distinctly non-sarcastic way. The implication is that anyone who didn’t “get it,” that Trump was being sarcastic, that he didn’t mean it literally, must be stupid. That is how the narcissist gaslights.

A mistake often made by victims of the narcissist is they believe that they can bring the narcissist to see reason. This creates in the victim a tendency to concede minor points in order to make a major one. It might come in the form of the victim saying, for example, “Okay, I concede you were not trying to be deliberately cruel by your remarks, but can you understand how you might have been accidentally cruel?” These concessions, made a little bit at a time, are seized upon by the narcissist and used against the victim as weapons. The narcissist may later say something like, “What do you mean by that? You said it yourself once, that I’m not cruel. Were you lying?” Trump frequently uses small concessions or retractions or admissions of error made by the press as weapons against them.

Narcissists never admit they are wrong and Trump is no exception. What’s more, Trump has trained people who work for him to become extremely reluctant to admit when Trump has made a mistake. Even Dr. Anthony Fauci has fallen reluctant but inevitable victim to Trump’s bullying in this way.


Montgomery Clift in "I Confess"

Saturday, June 6, 2020

Meet the Family ~ TPO

Meet the Family 
~ TPO ~
 Meet the family !
I remained frozen, holding my breath, until the little critters finished their little investigation, and then skittered away having delivered their squeaky warning !!!